Spoilt or sensible? The new-age V-Day dilemma
There’s a very specific fantasy attached to Valentine’s Day, one that involves a velvet box. Perhaps a Cartier Love bracelet, or a dinner somewhere with lighting flattering enough to justify three outfit changes and a fresh blow-dry. The version of the day we absorbed from films and Instagram. But increasingly, reality looks different.You expect the bracelet. He shows up with a handwritten note, a playlist, and a packet of your favourite Korean ramen because he remembers you once said it tastes like comfort. And instead of disappointment, you feel… moved.THE SOFT REBELLION AGAINST BIG GESTURES“I used to think Valentine’s Day meant dressing up and going somewhere expensive,” says Sanya Bhargava, a content strategist. “Last year, we just ordered sushi, watched Love Island , and exchanged letters. I still have that letter in my drawer. I don’t even remember the restaurants from earlier years.”THE COST OF BEING YOUNG AND IN LOVEThis shift isn’t happening in a vacuum. Valentine’s Day often arrives right in the middle of salary cycles and credit card bills. There is some thing disarmingly intimate about effort that cannot be bought. “I don’t need roses that die in two days. I’d rather someone plan something small but thoughtful. That tells me they’re paying attention,” says Jackie, an art student.Handwritten letters are back. So are photo prints, scrapbooks, and playlists that take hours to curate. People are baking for each other again. Ankita Joseph, a content creator, spent three evenings learning to make tiramisu because her partner once mentioned loving it. “I ruined two batches and almost cried. But when he ate it, he looked so happy. No expensive gift could have matched that,” she says.Micromance is having its moment!According to Bumble, over 70% of single Indians say small, consistent gestures matter more than grand ones, and 92% say affection now includes things like memes, playlists, and inside jokes.If not now, when am I supposed to be spoiled?Of course, not everyone is ready to romanticise a handwritten note. There is still a very real segment of daters who expect Valentine’s Day to feel… cinematic. The kind where the gift bag carries the quiet authority of a velvet box from Van Cleef & Arpels, and anything less feels faintly underwhelming. “If I’ve been hinting at a Mini Jodie and I get a candle, I’m going to need a minute,” laughs Ishita G, a stylist. “I’ll appreciate the thought… eventually. But expectations are expectations.” Lavanya Peter, a writer, admits the feeling is familiar. “I love thoughtful gifts. But Valentine’s Day is the one day you want to be spoilt. Otherwise it just feels like a regular day with dessert.”Wrtiten By: Aashna Reddy
